Today they told me to go to church with them and then to go with them for my mom’s haircut. But i didn’t really want to. Automatically they start yelling at me, saying Im rebellious, wanting to do “whatever I want” with my life instead of obeying them (and how perhaps it would be best if I moved out of the
house if I don’t agree with their upbringing)
**we are from Peru. Im 22 and came to the US at 7 (so most of my life I’ve been here AND my way of thinking is a mix between both cultures, not just traditional peruvian) My older sister is 32 and the perfect daughter. She never left home before getting married and she does everything and anything my parents tell her (no exaggeration). On the other hand, Im the disobedient one (who is graduating as a biology major in May and is going to persue Medical School, who volunteers weekly at 2 different places. ALSO: THEY SAY THAT I HAVE CHANGED SINCE DATING MY BF OF 1 YEAR. i say that its not him but the natural processes of aging…
=’( help
this is just today’s example.. it goes on many times a week but since I’m on winter break from school, I get to hear this daily. Also, I commute to school so it’s not like I get to just avoid it all in a few weeks.
I just want to know if I’m going crazy and if in fact it’s my fault. My parents are TOO MUCH into the “family is #1″ and I believe it too but I think they exaggerate that idea. They think that I am such an “american” that I believe in individualism too much. They even say that probably when I become a Dr and get married, that I will live far away and not really contact them. (as opposed to my married sister who sleeps over literally almost everyday in my house with her husband)
…geez =( I don’t know what to do. (plus my sister is so disrespectful to my boyfriend who at 24 is also persuing med school and works doing cancer research and loves me so much… there is no reason to not like him, atleast to treat him with respect.
so yea, thats my life at the moment…
also THANK YOU SO MUCH everyone for taking your time to read my long story here…
i talk about it with my bf and my best friend but perhaps they are biased. I really appreciate all your comments.