ultimate_inferno asked:


Ok she now lives in Peru, but she says she loves me and would marry me if it was possible, problem is how will we get married if she is over there and I am stuck here in England. If we get married she won’t be able to come to stay in the UK automatically will she? I am so deeply in love with her and I can’t don’t want to lose her, we have been through much together our love is very deep for one another. She was here in the UK for a while, but then had to leave as her VISA expired, so what do I do?

I can travel to Peru and marry her, but even then she won’t be able to stay, ughhhh this is depressing me…..is there anything I can do to beat the system, protest outside the home office, get people to sign petitions what? I’ll do anything I love her that much? There are so many illegal emigrants in this country and my beautiful lady was refused and sent back. Ughhh this is so messed up.

thumper3 asked:


I patitioned for my husband and his two kids to get their green cards. We were married for nearly 4 years when INS officers came to our home. I told my husband who freaked out and called his exwife. A few days later her told me his parents were ill and he had to return to Peru. Soon after that, I recieved COBRA papers (that you usually recieve after you leave your job) and I also received a phone call for a unually high activity on our joint credit card. This is when I discoved that my husband and his exwife fled back to Peru. I am now stuck trying to divorce him, but I have no idea how to start and no idea how to get proof that this was obviously a sham marriage. I tried to get his file from the INS as his patitioner but they told me to request the info through the freedom of information act. (which usually takes several months if not a year or so) is there a better way of divorcing my husband? (Note: I have no money for a lawyer even through legal aid…already tried.)

Andrew asked:


I never met the guy my wife lost her virginity to, and I really didn’t care because I wasn’t a virgin too when we got married!! I didn’t know how he looks or what’s his name but I knew he was in her high school and he’s from Peru, but oneday I went to my wife’s wall to write a comment and I saw a comment from this guy who I never heard his name or saw his face before, I clicked in his profile and he’s from the same high school she graduated from and he’s also from Peru, so I thought it’s the guy who she lost her virginity to.

I came home and I asked my wife, first she denied it, then I kept insisting she said yes he is the guy? I asked her why did she add him now that she’s married, less than six months throught the marriage, after a long battle she confessed she said quote “I added him to make him jealous and so he can see I am happy” my own wife uses me to get her high school sweet heart jealous!! AWESOME!! for a second I thought I am watching American Pie or these teenagers movies, but then I figured out it’s my life!! and it *****…

What am I supposed to do, my wife still wants her high school sweet heart to be jealous although she’s 26 and married!! My wife hid the fact that she added the guy she lost her virginity to, she lied about it when I first asked her.

I am hurt, I feel I am married to an immature kid, part of me says she’s cheating/cheated on me, I cannot trust her anymore. I am very busy guy in general, I am doing dual Masters and working fulltime, is it me??

What am I supposed to do? should I just get an early divorce?!
It may be worth mentioning that I when I clicked on wall to wall between both of them, I found out that she and he every year say happy birthday to each other! On time!

I found out all this just by spending 5 minutes on her page, I am honestly afraid to dig more…and she keeps lieing until I confront her with a solid Evidence, I really don’t have time or emotions for this…what am I supposed to do?
She asked me to remove all my ex-s before we get married, and I asked her to do the same in return…She said she removed all of them back then…but she added him again!!

I also asked her specifically not to talk to the guy who she lost her virginity to, because she kept talking to him when we were dating…she said she stopped talking to him!!

Birdgie asked:

He is virgo 50, me Gemini 34, he came to visit me to Lima, Peru for second time, but relationship was not the same, he just emailed every 14 days not as before, hesaid was working on his three jobs, he did not call me home as before, he said he had no long distance to save money, that his life was not easy, bills to pay, but I waited for him, because he said he love me very much, he has a light slimp sometimes he get sick and stop going to work, move from N. Carolina to Florida, I waited for him since June 2006, he finally came on April 2008, but he was too distant, talked about having fun, nothing serious about us, sleept until 1.00 p.m.. do not have breakfast with me, asked for two beds , I was on my period, I have to go and look for him in bed practically, he said her brother in law has cancer, he said that he will come back to visit me if I have no other boyfriend, four days while he was here was the same, I called out fuggock, did not buy his aspirin he had headache
I forgot while packing his and mine stuff, he get upset easily and was so cold with me, so I kept my distant too, I said just one breakfast on reception, he told me he wanted that day, that if I did not think that he might have changed of opinion??? and he went upstairs with summarizing, on last hours I confronted him, and he said I was not considerate, like childish I said I was sorry, but he kept on and told me next time I have a boyfriend I should know how to treat him, so I said, you are telling me to look for another one, he said nooooooo, or do you look for anoth… while you argue, I took him to airport, he smiled at me hold me and say see you later, I have emailed him since a month, he does not answer, told me as soon as arrived here he will disconnect his phone, He said and said he loves me so much, that he will never leave me, before, he broke up, I broke up by email, we always get back after 15, a month, What do you think, will he come back to me, or he has dumped me??

bilingual777 asked:

Thank you all for answering my previous questions, but noone address what I needed to know. here is the situation again…
I made a mistake in 2008 by leaving a good job position and moving to Lima, Peru for a girl a met online. Everything possible went wrong!! Lost her in the process and needed desperate help. So I met another ***** that gave me food and cloths to help me find a job (teaching english and now computer technician). Now me and that girl is planning to get married this coming year. Sounds great? here is the problem. I have a good job but I just dont like it here in peru, and my financial situation. It is really tough to live here especially if you want to be comfortable (hot running water, car, funiture etc). The main reason i agree to marry her is because she is willing to live with me to help save money, work together so we can both go to the USA, I feel like I owe it to her for all she did for me in 2008. sometimes I feel like I am making a mistake because I am still emocionaly unstable and now getting married? Should I trust that things will get better? or should I just leave her and everything and take a huge risk and return to my country and start over (at rock bottom living with my mom)? By the way I have my “green card” here that doesn’t expire until dec of 2010, I am paying a lot for it because my job requires it.
So staying here makes more since but i am emotionally strained due to the situation that I’m in and getting fed up with just everything! Returning to the USA would help with the emotional part because I’ll be home with my family but I would have to start all over again. What should I do?
Ok, every’s advise is for me to go home. What do i tell her? we’ve been together now for over a year and a half. I let the time go by because I wanted to make sure. Everytime I wanted to break up with her and go back I thought to myself. No, let me see if it works, I’ll give it a few more months. now she is all excited for the wedding, even her family is supportive. I feel that I waited too long and it’s too late.

Sweetpea asked:

I have never had many friends. I’ve always been fairly shy so it took me forever to make any. I really onyl had three ‘close’ friends, 2 of whom have moved away, and the third, who is now my sister in law, has gotten increasingly nasty and mean towards me over the years.
My husband, however, has tons of friends, and they are always over. Not to say that they tell me that I can’t be out there, but to be honest, it’s difficult for me to keep up with the conversation, as they are all work buddies, or school mates, or the subject is just over my head, like the inner workings of can engine, or something.
I always hear them laughing and having fun, and when I go out to see them, I feel like I really shouldn’t be there. None of them are mean to me, in fact, they are overly polite.
I’m getting really lonely. I miss my old friends, they had been my friends since middle school, and now one is in London and the other is in Peru.
I feel like a jerk, since these guys have been nothing but nice to me, but I feel like I’m being pushed out of my home with all their tools and cigarettes and masculinity.
COuld I ask my husband to maybe limit the time his friends are over, or would that be a nagging wife thing to do? And what can I do about making new friends? I’m the youngest married woman in my building, so the other moms tend to almost lump me with thier children.

wa asked:

My wife and I have been married for about a year and together for another 6 months on top of that. We both decided to get married a little earlier than we both felt comfortable due to immigration and money. (She is Peruvian and I am in the military.) Unfortunately, she has taken to the wife role a lot better than I have to the husband. She is a very attached and affection woman. But she also has many issues involving trust and neediness. We often get in fights, and normally we just have make up *** and forget about the whole situation by the next morning. I thought this was unhealthy as we never got any real resolution to our problem from the previous night. Last night the same thing happened again, but this time when I woke up, I was still tore up and sad at how we fight so much and how it seems to be so pointless. On top of all of this, I am soon to be training to special forces that will require me to be gone more time than I home, and this is after the 2 year school. As I said before, she is very attached. Even when I leave now for a week or less for work, it is very difficult for her. We have talked about this and what to do. She knows I will go through with this job, it is something she is finally accepting, so weve sat down and talked about our future and it seems even at our best – things would be very difficult. So at this point, I have decided that it is best to end things before we get any further with each other. We are both still young and she could go back to peru to finish school and live with her family (as she has wanted for some time now) and I can work on my career. I have already decided this is the best. I would rather break our hearts now and end this rather than drag it on and pretend like everything is good. I especially do not need to make the future training any more difficult than it will already be dealing with her, and she shouldn’t be in pain due to separation from me and just waiting for me. She is a very smart and beautiful girl that I have to admit would be better suited for another man. Love was blinding me at first, but the truth is now rearing its ugly head and has informed me that staying together is not the best option. So my question is what is the best way to do this? She almost has her residency here, so I will wait til after that before I start anything, but after that what is the best way to go about the situation? The only thing we share is a bank account with a few thousand in it and an apartment. I have no problem giving her that money for her family and what not back home. I also bought a car for her, which I will probably sell once she moves. But other than that we do not share much. I don’t think she will make this a grandeur divorce, and may even want to stay married just so she can travel back and forth as she pleases. I plan on trying to deal with this just between us. Anybody with a similar situation with advice would be great. Thanks. Warren.
Counseling is not really an option either. I have brought that up before and that didn’t work too well. I have also seriously picked my brain for multiple options, and have none that have worked. That seem to be suppressors with no real result.

Birdgie asked:

He came to visit me to Lima Peru, this was his second visit, He said I was not considerate, not respectful, I was but just in a little way, it was not such a big deal, and I love him so much, and I know that he loves me too, he is a good man, but as you know all of us, has a good and a bad side, nobody is perfect.
- I already emailed him more than 5 times. Now my emails starts to being reject by his server, it saids is temporarily inactive.
- He disconnect his phone, but he told me so, before He complained about my behaviour. He said he will do so, to save so money, his life is hard, and not get a lot of money, he tends to be on bad mood sometimes, he has a light slimp on his knee that make him stop of going to work, but he usually stay at home sleeping, like he will be depressed, and I called him to cheer him up…

What you think????

speedmata asked:

in order for this to work out my future wife lives in peru located in southamerica im a usa citizen i will like advise on this matter so i won’t do a mistake well thanks i was already married but we don’t live together anymore it was 5 years ago we got married in peru do you think this is a problem with INS service well thanks yahoo answers
this a another lady i got marriend in peru the 1st time five years ago now im plannig to get married again
soy ciudadano americano en el 2001 me case en peru con una mujer x i meti los papeles para traerla pero eya no paso la entrevista de la embajada me mandaron un papel de la embajada que decia que tenia que ir a peru para que ellos me entrevisten tambien pero yo no regrese por ella porque pense que no iva a funcionar i podria pasar algo malo a mi i otras cosas mas que paso en nuestra relacion ahora no se en k quedo mi caso si esta archivado o ya no paso nada ahora quiero casarme en peru i traerme a mi novia ustedes piensan que tendre problemas con la embajada de peru por mi primer caso que me indican hacer espero que esto funcione para el bien de mi i mi vida

AnswerWhore asked:

The couple has been married since August of 2004, and they rent their home and only own a car together. He wants the divorce on the grounds of irreconcileable differences, and she wants to work it out.