well, here goes. at sixteen, i was in a terrible relationship with an 18 year old boy. he was terribly jealous and controlling. we lived with my mother who was in an abusive relationship with some redneck, and they were using meth. due to my own inability to say no, i became pregnant. mom and bf got in a fight, and he was kicked out. i was upset too, and i went to stay with my sister and her child and husband for a month or so. i broke up with bf, thank god. mom still did not know that i was pregnant, but my sister did know. i ended up meeting a wonderful man that my sister worked with, a 26 year old peruvian man. he was not like the guys i had known. we became involved and soon i returned to my mothers and we stayed together. well, he was an illegal. we moved in together and he became daddy to my beautiful little girl. my ex sent letters but never offered to help, so i did not speak to him.
the following year, when my child was around nine months old, the peruvian man was deported. i joined him in peru and have now been in peru for ayear and three months, while we wait for paperwork to decide whether he can return or not. i have decided to return home, no matter what, and am considering doing it now. the problem is, my daugther is two and a half, and he is her daddy, and they love each other. and my mom says she is not doing drugs, but she is still occasionally seeing the abusive man. i would have to stay with my mom if i return. well, basically, i am sad and upset and dont know what to do. i am nineteen.
well peru is alright, though dangerous. i do not want to stay here forever. i have been waiting on pins and needles for three months waiting to get an answer, and now i have to wait more. our relationship is deteriorating due to stress. i want to go home but if the paperwork came soon, like in two weeks, i would be fine.
the abusive man has never been anything but cordial to me. his abuse to my mother has been pulling her hair, flinging her around, and once banging her head on a wall. but they are not living together, they have a court order not to be together, if seen together they will both go to jail. she sneaks out to see him see him sometimes, she says.
me and the peruvian man have been together for three years, and it has been great, for the most part, not counting all the stress from deportation and now the waiting in limbo. i love him and he loves me and my daughter especially.