Bob M asked:

So, my story starts like this:

I’ve dated this girl for 16 months and during that time, I can say it was kind of a crazy love but an unhealthy relationship…meaning, we were kinda possessive. We spent a lot of time with each other whenever we could and pretty much did everything together. Anyways, since it was an unhealthy relationship…as time passed, the love sometimes could not handle the same “dumb arugments” over and over again. Therefore, we would get really irritated and annoyed of each other and occasionally said “lets break up” over and over again. That’s how our relationship was. But although we were madly in love, we started getting REALLY impatient of each other’s flaws and our level of tolerance of each other would just drop to a certain point we were like ambivalent. I guess in other words…we were kinda tired of each other…but still in love. (Does that make sense?)
The relationship kept going and although in the beginning, she was the one who liked me so much and went crazy…i guess she started to lose that and I started to do that more. So like…I really liked her b/ she liked me so much and cared about me. But as the relationship progressed, the arguements and fights made her less tolerable and impatient. Now, I guess you can say…I was the one trying in the relationship while she tried to brush every problem away. Occasionally, she would be so in love with me and say “i love you, i love you” a lot but that would also change really quickly through an act of arguing or fighting.
One day, when she had to go on a Church retreat, I felt like we haven’t talked in awhile and got bitter that she wasn’t making time to talk to me. (I got jealous really easily and it was stupid) That night, she told me i was annoying and we broke up. The next day, I called her to see how she was but she said she was happy that she didn’t have to look at her phone and worry. Then, she said she didn’t want to do this relationship anymore. She said she hated the feeling of being trapped and pressured. But our relationship was getting better in the aspects of being like that yet she always brought up the past and made herself live in the past. Therefore, for a month we broke up. During that time I could not believe it since we had broken up so much so I always called her…pathetically begging and clinging on…asking questions etc. It just didn’t seem like her…that’s why. Within that months, the longest we haven’t talked was 3 days since i’d always call. Whenever I called though, she went really defensive and told me to go away, called me annoying and acted really cruel. But one time, when I decided to just let her be, she called me to tell me about something troubling and ended with “I love you.” The thing was, she had said “I love you” but always said she was not ready for a relationship right now. But when she said that, my heart melted and I felt like she was coming back to me. Few days later, I called her and asked her out on a date. She accepted, ditched school and we spent the entire day together. At first, it was awkward because we were both being defensive…but soon, she started to burst out into tears and so did i. We apologized for each other’s mistakes and that day, we spent the entire day as if we were back together. We got pretty physical and intimate but furthermore, it was a great day. Although she at one point said that she wanted to take this slowly…I guess the next 3 days, we had a really great time together spending a lot of time with each other. But after those 3 days, she had to go on a school trip to Peru. When she went, i wished her the best time b/ normally we got into arguements when one of us left. This time, i wanted it to be memorable and not guilty. She left and i lent her my ipod for her convenience. During the week she was gone, I felt happier and free from worries. I sent her 2 emails wondering how she was and although there was no response, I just waited. After 1 week had passed, finally it was the day of her return. She called me last Sunday morning with a bright cheerful voice and said “I’m back!” and explained why she couldn’t email but I said it was ok. She was heading home on the bus when I got kinda bitter that she didn’t want to talk on the bus but of course I didn’t show it…but she kinda felt something was wrong. Before she hung up, she said “I love you”
OK..so this is where the problem started. I was a bit bitter and by the time she arrived, I was not free and she had went out w/ her school friends for breakfast. I don’t know why that morning I got bitter one after another. It was really stupid. I felt like she jsut got back yet she was still spending so much time with her friends. I felt like I was a second wheel. Anyways, i sent her a bitter text message and told her that we’ll jsut see each other some other time and I told her I really didn’t liek her (as a hint). Just then…she sent me a text back exploding at me. She said, “I don’t even know what’s

squeaky_giggles asked:

I’m looking for something to participate in this summer, but as I’m not a very experienced traveller (I’ve been to lots of places in Western Europe but don’t really feel ready to go somewhere really far flung on my own) I’m looking for something I can do that’s not too far from home (i’m in the UK). Perhaps France, Spain, Italy etc…
I wouldn’t mind volunteering, teaching, learning or working – any of them. I would just love to travel this summer, regardless.
I’ve looked at lots of different websites but there doesn’t seem to be anything that’s not somewhere like India or Peru.
Could anyone suggest anything?

karasita asked:

Im dating someone in the states, who im pretty sure im in love with. however, i live in Lima, Peru, and have found someone here that im interested in. Should i give up on keeping the relationship back home, or should i hold on to what we’ve got, and forget about starting a relationship here in Peru?